Medium Concetta Bertoldi answers common questions about the dead

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Do dead people watch us shower? Does Grandma know I like to do that in bed?
Sure they can! And Grandma certainly does ... They see us in the bathroom and they see us in the bedroom! But who cares? They're dead! Who're they gonna tell anything?

Don't freak out. The thing you need to remember is that they are not in the flesh — they remember the flesh, but it's not of any concern to them any more. They're not judging. It's not like they're going, "Whoa! Has she got a big butt!" or "If I was him, I'da shaved that!" or "Holy Moly! Did ya ever see such a big ..." Well, you get the point. The dead are not "Peeping Toms" — they don't get any special thrill out of "watching," it's not entertainment to them — that's thinking in human terms. They just look at it like human nature, like we might see two animals going at it and just look at it as animal nature. Maybe we might smile, or even laugh. But it's not judgment. We don't expect a couple of dogs or squirrels to be embarrassed that we see them doing what they're doing. Yes, the dead certainly do see us in the shower or making love, but it's just like we might witness an ordinary act of human kindness. We don't judge it. We just smile and think, "how beautiful." They are just happy that you are experiencing love or maybe just one-night-stand pleasure. They are happy for you. The dead are not nearly as stuffy about sex — not even our dead Sicilian fathers!

And before you even ask the question — yes, they also see all our secret, sneaky behavior —they see us raiding the refrigerator and scarfing up the ice cream and the leftover lasagna when we're supposed to be on a diet; they see us picking our nose when we can't find a kleenex. Again, in their eyes, it's just ordinary human behavior. No judgment. They also see us in the operating room and in the classroom, and at our holiday table. They enjoy with us all the events we celebrate in our life and they also walk us through our sorrows and heartaches.

Is it possible to ask the dead for a moment of privacy? Can we have a "Would you please avert your eyes, Grams?" moment with the Other Side?

I hate to break it to you, but, no. Even if you said, "Don't look," that wouldn't stop them. What about God? You never think about God looking, right? It's the same thing. Does God ever stop looking? No. When your grandparents are over there, they are one with God. You can't just turn that off or hide from it.

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Phew! That's a load off!

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What I've heard from the souls on the Other Side is that when we die we leave either through our feet or the top of the head.

but there are so many orifices!!!!

Is there such thing as a "dirty old ghost"?
Well I didn't exactly say that the dead didn't have a sense of humor about the body and being in the flesh. They may touch someone or push someone, just to show they can do it. I've twice had a spirit actually try to make love to me. Very strange, but not scary — of course I can't speak for everyone on that count. But I've heard many stories about spirits touching someone. I had one client whose beach house down at the Jersey shore had a very playful resident ghost. He seemed to live in their shower and delighted in pressing up against anyone who used the shower —

oh. my. god.